Hanging Onto Your BFFs: A Guide for Women to Keep Their Friendships Alive in the Adult World
Remember those days when you'd spend hours talking to your BFFs on the phone or hanging out at the mall? Well, those days may not be exactly the same in adulthood, especially when most of your friends are married and have a handful of babies, but that doesn't mean you have to say goodbye to your amazing friendships.
In the real world of jobs, families, and all the other stuff that comes with being an adult, it's easy to let your friendships slip away. But these connections are just as important as ever. They're the ones who make you laugh, support you through tough times, and remind you that you're not alone in this crazy thing called life.
Although Covid was a terrible time, it also rekindled some of my lifelong friendships over an app called Marco Polo. During this time, I was able to reconnect with some of my best friends and continue to stay in touch with them today!
Why Adult Friendships Are Your Jam
Good friends aren't just there to have fun with; they're also there to boost your happiness, make you feel good about yourself, and even help you live longer. They're like your personal cheerleaders, always on your side and ready to celebrate your successes. I hope everyone has at least one ride or die friendship as those friends are irreplaceable! :)
Keeping Your Friendships Alive in the Adult Jungle
Maintaining friendships in adulthood takes a little bit of work, but it's totally worth it. Here are a few tips to keep your BFFs close:
Make Time for Friendships: It's easy to get caught up in the daily grind, but don't forget to schedule time for your friends. Even a quick coffee or a phone call can make a big difference.
Be Present: When you're with your friends, put away your phone and focus on them. Listen to what they have to say, ask questions, and share your own thoughts and experiences.
Use Different Ways to Connect: Text, call, video chat, or meet up in person – use whatever communication style works best for you and your friends.
Celebrate Their Wins: Be there for your friends' happy moments and offer support during tough times. True friendship is a two-way street.
Forgive and Move On: Disagreements will happen, but don't let them ruin your friendships. Be willing to forgive, talk things out, and move forward.
Make New Friends: While keeping your old friends is important, don't be afraid to make new ones. Join clubs, take classes, or volunteer in your community to expand your social circle.
Friendships are like plants – they need nurturing to grow. By making time for your friends, being present, using different ways to connect, celebrating their wins, forgiving and moving on, and making new friends, you can keep your friendships alive and thriving in the adult world. Remember, true friends are worth the effort, and the connections you make can last a lifetime.
